Updated: Dec 30, 2018
It’s natural to want to be the best at something, we are all schooled from an early age to “do better” ..to do our best. But when doing your best becomes confused with being perfect, a person does nothing but set themselves up for self criticism and sadness. Of course there are those in the world that are olympic athletes or those that are masters of their craft.
And I salute them, I really do. But I do not envy them.
The path of perfection is a crippling journey and one our current society and popular culture tells us is the “norm”. Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, all platforms built to reinforce inadequacy and increase self doubt, increase the desire and expectation to be perfect. The irony is on most occasions what you see isn't real, its altered, either in it’s aesthetic appearance or in it’s positioning. Do we really believe every couple you see on facebook and instagram are having the time of their lives, that there is never an argument, that Kim Kardashian wakes up looking like she appears in her photos. That there is even a scrap of her that hasn't been enhanced either surgically or via photoshop. When people track down someone else’s car to have a picture taken next to it. When someone is more concerned about photographing their meal rather than eating it. The sadness of this, is that on most occasions, the person taking that photographs or posing within them; living that imaginary life, has potential issues with self esteem, issues with confidence, or an overwhelming self doubt or desire to fit it.. and it is making the world unhappy.
The desire to be included into a club you didn't even want to be a member of in the first place
You see for me, the world has lost it’s pride in individualism, it’s pride in being different, stepping out of the line, walking the wrong direction, questioning the conversation. The world is sanitised, it see’s individualism as being difficult or disruptive. The confidence in the unique elements of us all is being suppressed, and what is worse, is it is being suppressed by us ! But what is really going on here is a lack of confidence.
A fear of being the one to say no. For people stuck in this trap, life can be incredibly difficult. They have goals that they want to achieve. Or at least they think they have goals. My question would be “are those goals your own”?Often with coaching, when you have a chance to talk to someone, someone who is there just for you.
Someone to help you figure out what your “truth” is , what your desires are and how to feel proud of expressing them.Well then, Life becomes less complicated. Less pressured. Less demanding. Less Stressful and you start to live your life being proud of who you are.There are no silly answers or statements, just understanding and clarity. It is your time, and your safe space. An investment in you and your happiness. Please don’t just hang on to your heart... Live inside it . Live inside your truth
You owe that to yourself x